How Do I Stop Being Such A People Pleaser?
JVN sits down with Kati Morton, a licensed therapist and bestselling author, to dive deep into the world of people-pleasing.
JVN sits down with Kati Morton, a licensed therapist and bestselling author, to dive deep into the world of people-pleasing. Together, they unpack why people-pleasing isn鈥檛 just about being nice鈥攊t鈥檚 about discomfort with other people鈥檚 discomfort, and why it leaves so many of us feeling invisible, drained, and resentful.
Kati shares her expert tips on breaking free from the cycle, including practical strategies like 鈥渙pposite action鈥� and learning to set boundaries without guilt. They discuss why saying no doesn鈥檛 make you selfish, how to rediscover yourself when you鈥檝e been lost in pleasing others, and why finding the courage to be disliked might be the most radical act of self-care.
Kati Morton, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and a highly sought-after public speaker in the field of mental health. Starting with a master's degree in Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University, she has built a vast and vibrant online community. Her YouTube channel - with over 1.4 million subscribers and 130 million views, has made her a prominent figure in translating complex mental health concepts into accessible language. Through her dynamic presence on social media and appearances on top-rated shows such as The TODAY Show, Dr. Phil, Alex Cooper鈥檚 Call Her Daddy, E! News, CBS The Doctors, and The Dr. Drew Show, Kati successfully spreads awareness, reduces stigma, and empowers individuals to prioritise their mental well-being. As an accomplished author of two best-selling books "Are u ok?: A Guide to Caring for Your Mental Health," and 鈥淭raumatized: Identify, Understand and Cope with PTSD and Emotional Stress鈥�, Kati's dedication to dismantling barriers to mental health services and fostering a supportive global community is unmatched.
You can find Kati on Instagram and TikTok @katimorton and on YouTube @KatiMorton
Jonathan is on Instagram @JVN.
Transcripts for each episode are available at JonathanVanNess.com.
Our senior producer is Chris McClure. Our editor & engineer is Nathanael McClure. Production support from Julie Carrillo, Anne Currie, and Chad Hall.
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