βShe said things without the sense of embarrassmentβ - Alice Wong's disability legacy
.... and TikTok pranksters targeting disabled people for fun.
We pay tribute to US writer and community-builder Alice Wong who died this week at 51. Known for her Disability Visibility project and #CripTheVote, we hear from her friend Nichola Griffith who collaborated with her on a writing project called #CripLit. She never actualy met her offline yet they made a big connection. If you didn't know of her in life, here's your chance for her to inspire you with the spirit she created.
Journalist Alex Taylor fell foul of a TikTok prank when someone stuck out their tongue at him to get a reaction. He then chased them in his powerchair to try and delete the video before it got online. He believes he was targeted because he was disabled.
Also, presenter Emma Tracey shoots the breeze about gyms, exercise and talks to award-winning podcaster Grace Gigi Ogun, who makes the funny rich audio podcast Journeys With Grace about living with kidney cancer, and has a talent for football and music.
Presenter/producer Emma Tracey, mixed by Dave O'Neill, produced by Kevin Satizabal Carrascal, Alex Collins, series producer Beth Rose, editor Damon Rose.
Email: accessall@bbc.co.uk with your thoughts and questions. And say "Ask the ΒιΆΉΙη for Access All" to your smart speaker and subscribe to us on ΒιΆΉΙη Sounds. We're here every week.
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19th November 2025
bbc.co.uk/accessall
Access All β Ep 187
Presented by Emma Tracey
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EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Hello, later in this episode I speak to Grace Ogun about her award winning podcast:
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ So, it was cathartic for me to share what Iβve been going through. And I think when you are dealing with something, whether itβs life threatening or chronic illness you want to be able to share whatβs going on because sometimes it just feels lonely and youβre dealing with it by yourself. So, I feel as if you can do it physically and, yeah, mentally then do it.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ But first Alex is with me, ΒιΆΉΙη journalist. Heβs going to be here throughout the episode. And Alex, letβs start by getting a little insight into your current life. Youβve been getting a bit, uh, active recently.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I have, yes [laughs]. Iβve joined a gym.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Okay. Why?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I felt I had to at my age now Iβm getting a bit older, 35. But I just felt that I had to get a bit fitter and a bit healthier, and I wanted to look good for next year in the sun.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Whatβs next year?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Well, you know, I just want to go on holiday and look good, like on a beach. Thatβs my plan, so I thoughtβ¦
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Beach body ready, right okay. So, letβs just get to know a bit more about this gym visit. Youβve got cerebral palsy, right, you're a wheelchair user.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yes, I have.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ So, was it a special gym with a special trainer or what?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ It was actually. Itβs a local gym. But what happened is I actually went over there and I told them about my needs and how much I could do, and I asked them if I could have anyone who could help me and explain how I might actually best move myself and what I can do and how it would help me. And they had a man there who is an expert in these areas and he had explained that he knew what moves easiest is my arms, and so itβs mainly arm work which Iβve been doing.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I have another friend with cerebral palsy and he has gotten incredibly excited recently about new orthotics, bits that go into his shoes that help him when he walks. The excitement, he says itβs the best walking heβs done since he was about ten.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Oh, thatβs good.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Honestly, itβs brought him so much joy these new orthotics.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Thatβs good, Iβm pleased for him. At least heβs happy in himself with it because thatβs half the battle, right.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Oh, it is. I have a favourite cane.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Oh, have you?
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Oh, definitely. So, my cane is just a stick with a rubber ergonomic handle at the top, and at the bottom itβs clipped in a ball that rolls. When I swish the cane from side to side the ball rolls.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I see.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ And because itβs not a pointy tip it doesnβt get stuck in things. Because I walk through woods to get to the school run and shops and stuff, and the roller ball is really good. But I did use one of my canes for a ten-mile hike a couple of years ago.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Oh my goodness, so how was that?
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Well, one of my balls is broken. For some reason I have five canes hanging in my porch: one has a broken ball; two have skinny tips that I would never use; one is too long and doesnβt fold; and the other one I use all the time. Why have I got five canes when I only use one of them? Why?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I guess in case you need them all. In case, you know.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I mean, the minute I throw out all the canes I donβt use Iβll leave one on a bus or in a pub or something and then I wonβt have one the next day.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Exactly, thatβs why.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yeah, my children will have to take themselves to school. So, one of the biggest things about having the skinny tips on the cane and going through rough terrain is that there is a very specific injury that blind people get when the cane gets stuck and you donβt realise in time and you keep walking.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Ouch.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yeah, itβs a bruise to the pubic bone.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ My goodness, thatβs painful.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ It is really painful.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Ouch.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ It is really painful and then, you know, you shout in the street and thatβs not really good either, you know.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ You can pad it I guess? What do you do? You just have to hope it doesnβt happen.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ [Laughs] pad it!
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Well, I donβt know, Iβm just trying to makeβ¦
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Make a cod piece [laughs].
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Itβs not ideal but I guess it wouldnβt hurt as much.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ But Alex, that is not a very social model.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I know, Iβm just trying toβ¦
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Youβre asking me to change myself, not the cane.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I know, Iβm sorry.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ So, can I tell you what theyβve done instead of making all blind people pad that area of their body?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yes, please do [laughs].
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Theyβve created a shock absorbing cane.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Oh, thatβs better. That makes more sense. I agree with that.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ [Laughs] so when it gets stuck it kind of springs in on itself a little bit so that it moves away from that area.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Good.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Itβs called the no-jab cane.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Wow.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Were ever in the gym before?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I did go as a kid but then I had homework and I had life and parties, and rock and roll, and that kind of took over. And Iβm an adult now so Iβm a lot more calmer and mature.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I think theyβre smelly.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yeah, they are.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ They smell like shoes.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ The ab men and theyβre always like, oh look at me. Iβm like, you know what mate, yeah.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Iβve been in a gym a few times. One of those times I did the absolute pure blind thing of running on a treadmill and running off the end.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ [Laughs] I mean, that sounds great.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Hah, made you laugh!
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I mean, thatβs ow, but that sounds great [laughs]. I mean, not great, but also it would be quite interesting to see.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I would love to know what the people looking at me thought. I was only about 20, because I havenβt been in a gym for about 20 years, letβs face it.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ So, youβre just as bad as me then.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yeah, yeah, totally. I have started running, but thatβs a whole different story that we donβt have time to talk about today.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Iβm sorry, I wonβt ask.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I mean, ask me the next time because I need accountability because Iβve only done two runs so far.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Okay, I will do, Iβll hold you up to account. We can both run; well, except I canβt run, but I can be there and encourage you.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Thatβs not running.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ True. Iβll say run, Forrest, run, and see what happens.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ [Laughs]
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EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ This is Access All. Iβm Emma Tracey and I love to hear from you. You can get in touch, accessall@bbc.co.uk is our email address, and you can find us on the socials on X and Instagram @ΒιΆΉΙηAccessAll. And if you havenβt done so already please do subscribe to us. Hit that big button on ΒιΆΉΙη Sounds or if you're outside the UK wherever you get your podcasts from. Now, over the next half hour or so weβll be talking about the late Alice Wong. But first, with me is Alex Taylor, ΒιΆΉΙη journalist, culture specialist. And youβre usually reporting on the news, Alex, but at the moment you are the news.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I am yes, yes, apparently so.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ So, there was a TikTok trend targeted at you. Tell me your story.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I was heading home in August and I was at the Underground. And at that time I had my head down, and I could feel a person actually hovering over me. I looked up at that point and I had a man who was inches away from me, and he was looking at me in the eye motionless. And then he put his tongue out. And I know that might appear like it was hilarious, but at the time it was to actually make me uneasy and not sure what was happening. And at that moment I wasnβt sure if he was going to attack me and mug me. I didnβt know what was going on. And then as he was looking at me he started laughing, and then I realised he was looking over my head. So, I turned around and he was with a mate of his who had his mobile out and was filming me. And then I was like, oh my goodness, well this is about to go on to TikTok and everywhere, I have to stop them. So, I said to them, βHang on, youβve got to stop this, itβs not right. How dare you? Iβm just heading home. I havenβt done anything. Get away from me. Iβm not a jokeβ. And then a few more of them actually came over, there were about eight or nine of these guys at this point, they ran away and I went after them in my chair. I have to laugh at this idea that I was in my wheelchair, 100 miles an hour, hurtling after these people and I was saying, βHelp me. How dare you!β So, nobody actually did help which well, that actually kind of annoyed me, but I did understand at that time how if I was being mugged it might be a bit of a danger in their minds, not to get involved. The boys, or rather men, eventually ran up a stairwell and I lost them.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ So, they got away from you because youβre a wheelchair user, they went up the stairway?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yes, exactly that. I did my best but I couldnβt quite catch them, which maybe is a good thing, who knows.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Okay. So, theyβre doing this TikTok tongue out trend where someone sticks their tongue out at someone whoβs not expecting it and films their reaction, right?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yes.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ So, what would you say to people who might say that they were just having a bit of a laugh?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ So, I have had a lot of that response online, people who have argued that thatβs not a hate crime and they werenβt actually after you. Everyoneβs been having this what makes it about your wheelchair. Now, I just want to explain here that I was in a passageway, there were many other people there, you had one person ahead of me and the other person behind me, encircled. When he was looking at me it was in order to mimic that I might have my tongue out, I might not understand, all this stuff it was linked in with why I was targeted.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ And you wrote an article all about this experience.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I did.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ And you called it out as a disability hate crime.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ The law actually helps us in this regard because in the UK itβs not only about what words are actually used or whether itβs defined as a hate crime by other people. As a person who was in the chair who had it happen I can perceive it as such, and in law that counts.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Tell me about in that moment how you felt.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Angry. Because Iβm an adult man and I hadnβt asked for this, I was heading home, I was looking at my mobile phone, I just wanted to get home, and yet I had these adult men who just think Iβm an okay target to come at and use for content, for laughs. I wanted to hold them up to account really; that was my aim in going after them. I didnβt want to hurt them. What I wanted to argue was, look, you have to get that off your phone because I didnβt ask for this and I didnβt say that you could film me.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ And did they film the chase as well?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ No, because they were scared at that point I think like, whoops, this has backfired, he can actually move.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Oh, interesting, so they werenβt expecting you to be so quick in your wheels?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Not at all.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ And someone else might not have been.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Exactly.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Your article got over a million views taking about this subject and explaining your experience.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yeah, and young people read it too. I think thatβs an important point which I find interesting that young people read it, massive numbers of young people.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Oh yes, because we can follow what age groups it is that read it and stuff.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yeah.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ You put a contact form at the bottom for people to get in touch and to tell of their experiences, and lots of people did. A couple of the people who read the article are disabled people and it encouraged them to tell their own personal disability hate crime stories. Matthew said:
MATTHEW-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Iβm a blogger, writer and filmmaker. I have cerebral palsy and use a power chair and communication aid. I get mocked by young people almost daily when I go out in my chair. Kids mock me in the street, shout abusive language at me. Then when I try and tell them to stop it just encourages them as I canβt talk clearly and they find how I speak funny. Itβs extremely frustrating. Iβm proud of who I am and what Iβve achieved and I donβt see why I should be the butt of a childβs joke; yet I feel completely powerless to stop it. Itβs a ghastly, heart-wrenching feeling. No other 42 year-old man would have put up with it, yet itβs happening more and more.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Thatβs so affecting. And he says itβs increasing for him. And Daniel also wrote in. He said:
DANIEL-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I live in Cambridge and use a wheelchair. I get verbally abused about once a week through the actions mentioned in this article and others. It makes going outside feel genuinely scary sometimes.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Alex, were you surprised to get those responses?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Okay, I guess if Iβm honest with you, I know how hard it is and how bad it is because Iβm actually having to live with it too. So, I was happy I heard actually off those people because it gave them an option to actually make themselves heard. And thatβs why I wanted to write the article, not because itβs about me or ego or anything like that, but because no one else is going to hear us unless we have an opportunity, you know.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yeah.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ This podcast helps with that.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Do you experience it quite regularly, Alex?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Well, itβs happening more and more and more. Last year I had an article about Timmy, Southpark, and how in the past maybe after COVID especially Iβve had kids who would shout his name at me and think I canβt talk or I talk like him, and that was the whole point.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Explain who Timmy is before you go on.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Well, I mean [laughs] thereβs many ways to describe him, but heβs a character in Southpark and heβs in a wheelchair. He can only really shout his name, but how he does that and how he intonates it gives him a lot of heart and soul and personality. And so heβs not just a person who has no idea about anything whatβs going on, he knows full well what heβs doing. And thatβs what gets lost in the context.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ And these people nowadays are taking him out of context and just shouting Timmy at people as a disability slur.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yes. Itβs on TikTok you see, and this is how on TikTok thatβs what causes that. And so Iβve had lots of that happen too. It has been a build-up. And at my age I feel this more as well as an adult because I feel like yeah, as a kid I had this when it was big then as well when I was younger, and bullying too. But as an adult I shouldnβt be having this. How dare they?
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ And the way you just glossed over, you said and bullying too, as if that was a given.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ At school it kind of is though. I guess you just have to accept it. But I shouldnβt accept it as an adult when I know full well what I can do and my worth, and these kids have no idea about what I do and what Iβve done in my life.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ What part does social media play in this, to be honest?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Well, I think we have to look at it as an outlet for how our culture has moved. And I think itβs kind of a negative in that weβve got this world now where you have adults who have no idea about whatβs online, you have kids who have this world where they have no rules at all and theyβre not held to account for their actions, and so thereβs an idea that you can do anything. And actually it appears that you largely can because nothing gets done about it really. And so that means, in my article I actually talked with experts who look into this and why this is happening, and a lot of it is because of how the systems are built on TikTok and others, it rewards content which is emotive in every way, be that anger, mockery or laughter; itβs about instant reaction. And so in order to go viral this is a good way of doing it. So, thatβs often why disability gets used as a bat in a sense.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ In general you looked into hate crime figures in the UK, what state are they in at the moment?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yes, yes. Weβve had a large rise in hate in recent years, especially with disability. However, in the past year itβs actually fallen by 8%. But within that we have to understand that thereβs mitigating aspects to it. So, many argue that a lot of this is because people donβt always report whatβs happened to them because they either donβt have the confidence in themselves about doing it, or in the service itself.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Also on that point, Alex, the Metropolitan Police, thatβs Londonβs police force, recently announced that they would no longer be investigating non-crime hate incidents.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Well, itβs largely instances like this where especially online or if you have an opinion or itβs a joke then it can be much harder to meet that bar. And the idea was that we would have less of what they called the culture war. I understand that, but equally like in this case it could have a harmful effect in that people feel less inclined to report instances like this because it's not enough, in inverted commas.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ And weβve actually had emails from various different disability groups about this, including Inclusion London, so we know that people are anxious as well.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yes.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ What did the British Transport Police and Transport for London say and do about your incident and about what youβve been investigating?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ TFL has said that hate reports on its services have risen by almost 40%.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ In the last year?
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ In recent years. In the last year itβs actually gone down a bit; but in recent years it has actually gone up to that point where weβve had that rise. So, we know that there is an issue on the network like that, and they were understanding about whatβs going on. But as you mentioned, we have actually talked to charities who have explained within their work theyβve found that almost 30% of disabled people report hate incidents against them. But against that only 2% of those result in any convictions; and thatβs the lowest of any minority.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ So, Alex, TFL have a campaign which asks other people travelling on their network, Transport of Londonβs network, to get involved and to help people out in these situations. Tell me about the campaign and how that would have helped you.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yes, yes. So, actually itβs about how to intervene in those instances. It says that you should act like a person who knows them and that can help to diffuse it. So, if you say like, oh hi, Iβm heading home, how are you doing and how was your night out, it can help to cut the hate happening and make the person actually talk to them back. But in my case it would help afterwards if anyone would actually have come up and said are you okay, I saw what happened, it could really help when you actually file your case if you can mention that you got a witness or multiple witnesses, that can really help.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ And it also validates your experience.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yes.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Sometimes you can almost maybe feel gaslit, did it really happen, you know.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yes.Μύ
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Itβs the Act Like a Friend campaign where TFL are asking people to be active bystanders, to ignore the perpetrator and go and talk to the person who is being targeted. After all that hard work, Alex Taylor, you can relax and Iβll be back to you a bit later on.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Okay, thatβs good.
MUSIC-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Weβre not just a podcast. Find Access All on social media and read our articles on the ΒιΆΉΙη News website.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Access All was nominated for a British podcasting award recently and a couple of us got to go to a glitzy event at the O2 in London. Now, we didnβt win, unfortunately, but we were absolutely delighted to see a disability and health related podcast win Best New Podcast. Journeys with Grace is a sound, rich, music filled first person account of her life with Crohnβs disease and then kidney cancer, as a semi-professional footballer and musician, it has it all.
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GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ You all look, Iβm parking up now. I need the toilet right now. Iβm gone. Thank you. Love you guys.
FEMALE-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Love you more, babe. If you need me shout me. Hope you feel better!
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EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Graceβs friends get to call her Gigi, and Iβve been given permission to do the same. And sheβs here with me. Hi, Gigi.
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Hey, what a good intro [laughs].
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Ah, thank you, thank you. Tell the people who havenβt heard the podcast about your life.
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Iβm Gigi, and Journeys With Grace is a story of discovery just about my world and me trying to figure it out as a young lady in Brixton, South London, born to Nigerian parents. And it kind of follows the journey of me playing semi-pro football but having Crohnβs disease and trying to make it in the industry as a musician, before I get life-changing news. And then the whole podcast sees me trying to go through my journey to try and look at the different things that might have contributed to my later on diagnosis.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ What was the big news you got? What diagnosis are you living with, Gigi?
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ So, at the moment itβs just me dealing with kidney cancer.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Often when you get a diagnosis itβs you move forward from there, but youβve gone back and looked at all of the medication youβve taken, even your birth. Why did you want to do that?
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ When I was diagnosed itβs easy to say hey, this is what it is, and when you ask the doctors there was a lot of, it could have been bad genes or you were just unlucky, and da, da, da, da. But what if there were some sorts of factors that made me more of a risk? And actually when I went back and looked at it there were so many factors, had some of those things not happened I probably wouldnβt have got the diagnosis. And I think itβs just a message to people that environmental factors, stress, how we eat, how we sleep, how we manage these things actually do make a difference.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ So, how do you manage your health and diagnosis and all the fun stuff your body throws up at you while living a full and busy life? what are your strategies?
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ In the beginning it was just come and see the doctor and thatβs it. But I think when I started taking it into my own hands it became more manageable. So, at the moment itβs everything from oxygen therapy to acupuncture to rebounding every time I eat food, or going for walks, and taking quite a lot of supplements because Iβm not on treatment, I donβt get treatment from them. And thatβs not because I didnβt want treatment; that was because kidney cancer doesnβt respond to chemo and radiation.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ And what does rebounding every time you eat food mean?
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Rebounding is like very small little trampolines. You can have them in your house.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Oh, so itβs doing some exercise after youβ¦specific exercise. And is that to help with digestion?
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yes, but also to help with the lymph system, moving things around. And also when you eat food, at least for me as someone living with this, when youβre eating food you might get a sugar spike. So, Iβm trying to do everything to try and put that all into my muscles.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ And of course you had Crohnβs disease for many years, so not many people know as much about their gut as you do.
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yeah, I truly know about my gut. I had Crohnβs disease for many years before the other diagnosis.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ And youβre in remission just now?
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I reversed that, thatβs the only way I can describe that. I learnt about Crohnβs disease. I had to dismiss myself or be dismissed from the hospital, from my clinic, and I just went to learn everything there is to know about Crohnβs disease and just started to apply it. Before you knew it Iβm here.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ But youβve had a scan to say that they canβt see it?
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Oh yeah, yeah, I had a scan that said no evidence of disease for my Crohnβs disease. But incidentally thatβs where I discovered the tumour in the kidney, so yeah.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Give with one hand, take away with the other.
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I know, right [laughter].
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Gigi, tell me a bit about the football. You were semi-professional, werenβt you?
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yeah, I was. I played football for years. I really love football. Football is something that Iβve grown up watching and playing with most of the boys. And then I went off to play with Fulham. When I had the opportunity, I mention it in the podcast, to go and play in New Jersey, but at the time, maybe I was 17 or 18 and I think the idea of living away from home freaked me out and I never done it. But I regretted it about five years later.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ How did your football career end then?
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I mean, I made the decision to go to America and make music. So, I learnt how to produce music and I just decided well, music or football.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ You had two massive talents and you had to decide between one or the other; thatβs such a problem to have, Gigi [laughter]. Tell me a bit about the music then. Tell me where you started in music and where it took you.
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I come from a family of singers. Singing was just normal and just hearing music on a Sunday in particular was like, oh this is really cool. I loved music. Through primary school Iβd sing in competitions and things. But then I think the biggest thing I did was Pop Idol, it put me in a position to reach out to managers and ANRs and stuff. I didnβt win Pop Idol. After arguing with Simon Cowell I came out about just before we got to the last 50, that was it.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ What did you argue with Simon Cowell about?
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ At the time I was living with Crohnβs disease, and I didnβt really know that, I didnβt know it was Crohnβs disease, we were still investigating. It was during one of those performances my tummy was really hurting and I was running off having to go to the toilet. And the producers told me to just rest when we were supposed to be doing practice. So, when we did come and do the performance obviously my group didnβt know our song, we just didnβt know the song when they put us in groups together, not individually. He basically suggested I wasnβt taking it seriously, but he hadnβt been told by the producers this is what happened the night before. So, he was telling me I wasnβt taking it seriously. I was like, βI donβt know who you think youβre talking to because actually Iβve been unwellβ. So, we had that little disagreement. But then on the next one when I sang by myself he said, βI didnβt like you in the beginning but I like you nowβ.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Ah, so you made up?
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yeah, we were quiteβ¦ And then I saw him years later and he remembered me and we had a little chat and it was good to see him.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Now, letβs go back to your incredible sounding podcast. Itβs really an experience, an audio experience. Can you describe the style of your podcast?
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Itβs like watching a movie without visuals. The sound design is just amazing and itβs so well done, and we spent so much time working on it. So, yes I would write the scripts and I would execute like, this is how I want it to be, I want sound here, I want my song here; but Mark Fiery, who did the sound design, heβs just great at what he does and the way he mashed it together was incredible. So, for me it is a great listening experience.
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GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I was brought up in a Nigerian household so spicy food was standard. When the pound the pepper and the heat it was correct, but as soon as I realised that spicy food was a trigger, amongst other things, I started to pay more attention to it. Plus I had these tablets now to help me out.
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EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Is podcasting would you say a good career for someone living with a chronic illness?
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ In this experience it was cathartic for me to share what I was going through. And I think if you are dealing with something, whether itβs life threatening or chronic illness, you want to be able to share whatβs going on because sometimes it just feels lonely and youβre dealing with it by yourself. So, I feel as if you can do it physically and yeah, mentally then do it. I think itβs a good option.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ What did you hope people would get from the podcast?
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I wanted it to be something that people could use as a tool to just navigate whatever theyβre going through, from any different perspective. Like, thereβs a lot of musicians who listen to this and they see how I was going to America, knocking doors and sitting down with some of the biggest artists out there. As for people who are dealing with a chronic illness or a life threatening one you really need to learn everything you need to learn about your health so that you can advocate for yourself. Because sometimes youβre going in to see a doctor and you donβt know, and because youβre scared and you havenβt had the time to think about it you just make a decision. But itβs okay to take some time; itβs okay to get a second, third opinion.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Gigi, thank you so much for telling me all about Journeys With Grace. Itβs on wherever you get your podcasts, and itβs just won Best New Podcast at the British Podcast Awards. Congratulations again.
GIGI-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Thank you.
MUSIC-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Internationally renowned author and disability activist, Alice Wong, had died in the US aged 51.
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ALICE-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ If I wrote my own reputation it would be that I am someone who shows up, is thoughtful, accountable, and collaborative, that I am someone who welcomes critique and change, and that I want to learn and grow from my mistakes and do cool things with cool people. Thatβs a mouthful, but thatβs how I would like people to perceive me, whether they are acquainted with me or not.
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EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Alice, who called herself a disabled cyborg because she used a powered wheelchair and breathing apparatus due to a muscle condition, started the Disability Visibility project in 2014. This project gathered the oral histories of hundreds of disabled Americans which are now housed in the library of Congress. Alice Wong also founded the CripTheVote hashtag, which was an online nonpartisan space for disabled people to discuss access to politics and voting. Her great, great love was writing and literature. Her own memoire, The Year of the Tiger, was published in 2022. And she was very keen that disabled authors had an online space to discuss their craft. British born author, Nichola Griffith, started the hashtag #CripLit with Alice Wong, and Nichola is with me to remember Aliceβs remarkable life. Hi, Nichola.
NICHOLA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Hi, itβs nice to be here.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Weβve heard so much about the amazing work that Alice Wong has done, but you knew her pretty well. What was she like as a person?
NICHOLA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ She was full of fun actually. When I first met her we met initially through science fiction. She loved science fiction stories and I write science fiction. And I saw her a lot online. And she was very keen on cats and so we had that in common. And so I met her very much through a sense of play; and it was only later that disability began to really be woven into our conversation. She loved great food, she loved great clothes, she loved cats, she loved good books β thatβs how I first met her.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ And one of her big loves was writing, and youβre a writer too. She got the MacArthur fellowship for her excellency and originality in creative pursuits. What was it about Aliceβs writing that you think appealed to them, but appealed to so many disabled and non-disabled people?
NICHOLA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Clarity and bravery and kindness, but also the ability to be kind and brave and clear without being judgemental. She didnβt pull her punches but she was never punching you; she was punching the system. And thatβs a remarkable gift to be able to split and tailor oneβs message that way.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yeah, she really was able to give a sense of place and a sense of fun to really serious subject. I remember reading an article about when she got her feeding tube fitted. I was talking to someone else earlier who remembered reading an article about intimacy and about knowing your own body. Just youβre right there with her, arenβt you?
NICHOLA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yeah. Iβm not saying she had no sense of shame, because everybody does, but one of the wonderful things about Alice was she was very aware that shame is something everybody learns as we grow up. Itβs one of those ways that all human beings are socialised, you get these guardrails of shame, donβt do this in public, donβt talk about that in public, donβt admit to this, donβt do that. But basically she understand how shame worked and how demoralising it was for everybody and how much it prevents sometimes real honesty and conversation. So, in that sense she said things without the sense of embarrassment at all. It was amazing. And that gave her work a real lightness.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ And she really did love a conversation, didnβt she, and she set up various online spaces. She was a great one for getting people behind a thing and getting stuff done. What experience do you have of that organising and that activism?
NICHOLA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ CripLit as a regular chat just really wouldnβt have happened without Alice. I came up with the idea on Twitter, I said we need a hashtag, and I started using it whenever I talked about writers or writing. And she then sent me an email and said, so Iβve been doing this CripTheVote thing and I think this would make a really good regular chat. And Iβd been doing regular feminist SF chats, so I thought well yeah, of course. But wow, what a lot of work, what a lot of steadyβ¦ Iβm much more a sprinter than a marathon runner. I have the spark and I go yay, and I run, follow me; and then I wander off and other people can keep going or not. Alice was the one who was just like no, I have a goal, weβre going to make this happen, hereβs how weβre going to do it, weβre going to lay it out this way, hereβs my experience. And she had systems that I had never tried to build before. She was very experienced that way. It was marvellous.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ What kinds of things did you talk about in these chats?
NICHOLA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Well, we have quite a few of them archived. We talked about everything from what itβs like to be disabled as a writer, like do you only write about, do you feel the need to represent disabled characters as wonderful people, or are we yet at the stage where disabled people can be evil just because theyβre evil, not because theyβre disabled.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Not because theyβre the typical baddie?
NICHOLA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Yeah, not because being disabled is a signifier of evil; itβs just some percentage of all people are kind of vile people. So, some crips are too. So, we talked about editing and all kinds of things.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ All the geeky writer stuff. The word crip it comes up quite a lot in Aliceβs, in the things she did. Itβs a word disabled people have reclaimed somewhat for themselves. Tell me, you wrote a piece about Alice recently after her sad death, and you said youβd never met in real life but that didnβt matter. It seems like Alice had a lot of medical equipment, she had a lot of care, it was difficult for her to get into physical spaces sometimes. She very famously went to meet President Obama using a camera robot that arrived there as her. How important was online community to her and how important did she know it was to other disabled people?
NICHOLA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ I canβt really speak for her, but I imagine that it was almost everything. I mean, in-person communication and community is wonderful when you can have it, but when you canβt online sociability and community itβs a lifeline. Alice is one of many people I have never met, and theyβre not all disabled; there are many people Iβm email pen pals with who live in the UK or they live in Germany orβ¦ I travel a reasonable amount but not nearly as much as if I were able to travel without a wheelchair.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ How do you think Alice would like to be remembered, Nichola?
NICHOLA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ As fine and funny, fabulously dressed and fierce.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ What a beautiful tribute to your friend, Alice Wong. Thank you so much, Nichola Griffith, writer of nine novels yourself by the way. Thank you so much, Nichola, for talking to me about Alice Wongβs remarkable life.
NICHOLA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Thank you.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Alex, that is it for another episode of Access All. Thank you for being with me and telling me your stories.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Any time.
EMMA-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ And thank you for listening. You can contact us, as always, accessall@bbc.co.uk, or on the socials, X and Instagram @ΒιΆΉΙηAccessAll. See you later. Bye.
ALEX-ΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύΜύ Bye.
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